We have an opportunity to transcend competitive games in our relationships if we speak the truth of our experience.- Ndidi
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We have an opportunity to transcend competitive games in our relationships if we speak the truth of our experience.- Ndidi
nine principles for joy 
Oh, Ndidi
Of all entry titles, I sure wished that this one expanded a little more. You’re going to wish that I hadn’t discovered your blog (and or, I hadn’t consumed a few glasses of wine tonight). I’m in one rambling mood! While I’d like to view my youth (mid 30’s and earlier) as being ego free and unattached to the outcome, I do think certain actions fall more under the “ignorance is bliss” outcome. As we age and we notice ‘patterns’ which result in our own certain behavior, I think we consciously attempt to re-modify but in hopes of retaining the ‘core’ of our own identity. .Sometimes we later reflect and realize we sold ourselves temporally out and learn… and other times, we compromise and continue this process in hopes of achieving better results and at the same time retaining that of who we really are.
The past is gone but habits surely remain, causing us to continually replay the past “games.” Competition is good most times in business and sports, but in relationships, not so much. In the ultimate game of life, we play an infinite game, one in which our major goal is to continue the play – to paraphrase one of my cherished authors, James Carse. Nevertheless, our present is not only all we have, but also is the space where we can find what we are seeking – love. We do not “compete’ except that we think that winning will mean that we are finally loved and worthwhile. We are already worthwhile and loved. We didn’t make mistakes, we desperately sought love and acceptance. Now we know they’re already ours.
In order manage the habits, we have to deal with our awareness and avoidance of them, when they’re unpleasant. Then we can begin to adopt new ones. LOL
I find that the opposite of competition is inspiration. When others speak their truth, I am inspired in some way. When I speak my truth, I, likewise, inspire others.